They say falling in love is a socially acceptable form of madness.
You think from your heart rather than your mind; you act out of character and do things you’ve never done before; you believe in magic—in your very own fairytale. And you suddenly see a purpose to everything in life.
You were meant to be in that restaurant, at that exact hour. You were meant to forget your car keys, and take that cab out of hundreds in the city.
No matter how silly; no matter how absurd—somehow, in the crazy, stupid world of love, it all makes sense.
Accepting the Unacceptable
But what happens when that world comes crashing down?
When, in the blink of a moment, all the lights go out?
Sudden death, betrayal, long distance, deceit—we all hear stories of loss and heartbreak, but never think to ourselves: “One day, that’s going to be me”.
The problem with heartbreak isn’t that it’s real and painful; it’s the tragic epiphany that everything was a lie.
It’s treacherous, revolting, disgraceful, sad; but most importantly, it’s socially unacceptable.
As carriers of light, we all seek love as we do light. And when that love is betrayed or abandoned, we all feel jaded. We all hurt.
One of the most important phases of “moving on” from a loss so great, is accepting the infinite mysteries of life.
Despite the progress of science and technology, we will always have questions that have no answers, especially questions that are extremely close to our hearts. This, we accept because sometimes, logic simply can’t satiate our spiritual curiosity.
Asking the Right Questions
Many of us believe time is the best healer.
But what is time? Where does it exist? How big a window does it take to truly get over your pain?
These questions are futile. Because you’ll soon realize that time is, in itself, a mystery—a social construct designed to keep us plugged into society.
Ultimately, the question of “when” to move on isn’t as important as moving on, itself.
You don’t decide “when” it’s important to fall in love. You don’t measure the time it takes to find your soulmate, to get married, to evolve as an individual and as a couple.
Loving and Letting Go
Love always arrives fashionably late. Her cousin, tragedy, on the other hand, shows up unannounced.
At the end of the day, it all runs in the family.
And if you’re brave enough to welcome one in your life, you’ll probably manage to cope with the other.
Your heart is your home—and as head of the house, only you get to decide what’s acceptable and what isn’t. Moving on may take months, days, years or even a week. It’s an ongoing process that involves one person—and that’s YOU.
We all have scars from a tragedy that shook us. Some of them may take a little longer to heal, while others may disappear in a split second. The world needs you more than you need it. Share your wisdom when you think it’s time.
And when you’re ready, the world will listen.
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