Every now and then, we all fall prey to jealousy and let it overcome our sanity.
What’s she got that I don’t?
He probably pulled some strings to get that job.
She’s not that pretty without the makeup.
He’s got nothing going for him besides his money.
Sometimes, our observations come from a place of sincerity—some tough love, if you will, when it’s highly warranted.
But more often than not, negative comments about other people—especially those who mean us no harm—stem from a place of resentment, reflecting our insecurities instead of painting a portrait of honesty.
Now, don’t get me wrong. Jealousy is an inherently human characteristic. We all go through phases of self-delusion in order to justify our weaknesses or failures. Many of us know, deep down, that we only feel threatened by a person’s growing influence. And some of us even admit to feeling terrible about saying something rotten (and largely false) about a person who’s been nothing but nice to us.
This is normal—even healthy when we realize we were wrong. It’s humbling to reflect on our shortcomings, accept our flaws and make a conscious effort to evolve.
But when you lack the self-awareness to identify your own demons—that’s a major red flag indicating not a fleeting case of jealousy, but a toxic case of envy.
Distinguishing Between Jealousy and Envy
Jealousy is common and arguably healthy in a relationship.
Indeed, many people try actively to make their partners jealous in an attempt to win back their attention or when they feel like they’re being taken for granted. This may work for some, but not all—posing the risk of danger if it turns into a chronic episode.
But raging envy—that’s a totally different beast that can altogether pull the plug on your relationship, and begin a toxic cycle of negativity that can cause irreparable damage to your soul.
Envy (Invidia in Latin) is one of the seven cardinal vices discussed in several religions and spiritual philosophies—often represented by fire and the color green. What makes envy considerably different from (and worse than) jealousy is its inherently negative associations with ownership and ego.
When you’re envious of someone’s beauty, you don’t simply want what they have. You wish to be better than them—your desire for attention turning into a bitter fuel for their destruction. It’s targeted negativity that fogs up your vision, allowing you to see nothing but images of ugliness instead of beauty.
You Have the Power to Make a Difference
They say the source of all emotions lies in love and fear. Envy is rooted in the latter, causing all your efforts to be grounded in a place of negativity.
Are you attempting to be fit because you deserve to live a healthy life, or because you want to look better than someone else?
Are you working hard at your job because you know you’re capable of achieving excellence, or because you want to outshine the talented new coworker?
Intentions breed emotions that fuel our actions.
Make sure you’re motivated by love, not fear—so your actions inspire others to follow suit.
You are a gifted soul, capable of achieving extraordinary things. Look for beauty all around you, and let it help you discover the beauty that lies within.
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